When the Shine Wears Off
The first few weeks of college are often a whirlwind - new friends, new routines, and a rush of independence. But once midterms roll around and the excitement starts to fade, many students find themselves facing a tough reality: they miss home.
Homesickness is normal, but it can be hard to watch from the parent side. You want to help, but you also don’t want to smother. The good news? There are ways to support your student without hovering.
Listen First, Fix Later
Sometimes your student doesn’t need a solution - they just need someone to hear them. When they call or text about feeling lonely, start with empathy: “That sounds really hard” or “I remember feeling the same way.” Acknowledging their feelings goes a long way toward making them feel understood.
Encourage Involvement
Remind them (gently!) that homesickness often eases when they’re more engaged on campus. Joining a club, attending a campus event, or even just studying in a busy coffee shop can help them feel connected. Your role is to nudge, not push.
Send a Little Something
Small surprises from home can make a big impact:
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💌 A handwritten card (before a big test, after a tough week, or just because). I shared my favorite places to stock up in this blog post!
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📦 A care package with favorite snacks
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🥒 A fun little pick-me-up (yes, even something silly like a Positive Pickle!)
These gestures remind your student that they’re loved, but still give them the space to find their own way.
Trust the Process
The “W Curve” of the first year predicts this mid-semester slump - your student is right on schedule. With time, support, and a few ups and downs, they’ll adjust and come out stronger.
Homesickness doesn’t mean they aren’t ready for college; it means they’re human. And with your steady encouragement, they’ll soon find their footing again.