A Rollercoaster in Disguise
Parents often expect college to be a steady climb of excitement and growth, but the reality looks more like a “W.” The “W Curve” is a model that explains the emotional highs and lows many students experience during their first year. Knowing what’s ahead can help you support your student - and reassure yourself - along the way.
The Honeymoon Stage
Move-in day kicks things off with a rush of energy. Everything is new - the campus, the friends, the freedom. They’re riding high, and you’ll likely hear glowing updates and see big smiles on FaceTime.
The First Dip
A few weeks in, the shine starts to fade. Classes get tougher, laundry piles up, and homesickness can creep in. This is the first low point of the “W.” It’s normal, but it can be hard to watch from afar. Your job: listen, encourage, and remind them this feeling won’t last forever.
Finding Their Footing
By mid-semester, many students start to feel more settled. They’ve learned their way around campus, figured out a routine, and built a small circle of friends. Confidence begins to grow again - the middle peak of the “W.”
The Second Dip
Right before finals, stress levels spike. Academic pressure, lack of sleep, and the realization that the semester is almost over can be overwhelming. If they’ve also been missing home during the holiday season, this low can feel extra sharp.
The Climb Back Up
After finals and a trip home, they return in January with a new sense of independence. They know what to expect and feel more in control - the final rise of the “W.” And you’ll have weathered those ups and downs right alongside them.
Your Steady Support
Through every stage of the curve, your encouragement matters. A text that says “thinking of you,” a handwritten note, or a surprise care package can go a long way. You can’t smooth out every bump, but you can remind them they’re not navigating the curve alone.